Sunday, 10 November 2019

PARENTING “in Christ”

Ephesians 6:1-4

Pastor Jeremy Helmuth

The ROLE of the CHILD

Did you know that only one of the 10 commandments includes a promise? If teenagers and those younger could realize the power in Ephesians 6:1-3, it could dramatically change how they approach life.

  • Honor your parents if you want to ensure a life-long blessing from God.

The ROLE of the PARENT

A father or mother’s words and attitudes are like a thermostat that sets the  temperature in the home. The ultimate goal of a parent is to encourage their child in his or her walk with Christ. Here are three examples of how to encourage a child instead of exasperating them.

  • Overprotection exasperates a child.
  • Gradual release encourages a child.
  • Favoritism exasperates a child.
  • Guiding their bent encourages a child.
  • Harshness exasperates a child.
  • Firm tenderness encourages a child.
  • We get 18 years to develop the character of Christ in them.

Discussion Questions

Getting Started

1. What kind of family did you grow up in? Was it a "high touch" and affectionate place to live? Were you given lots of encouragement? Or was your family a little more stoic? Or maybe you had critical parents? Share if you are comfortable.

Digging Deeper

2. Read Proverbs 30:17; Exodus 21:15-17; Deuteronomy 21:18-21. Why do you think God commanded that rebellious children be killed in the O.T.? This seems so extreme, until you realize how important respect and authority are to God. What is the principle we can take from these passages?

3. As Pastor Jeremy discussed the ways a parent can exasperate their children, which one do you need to work on as a parent to avoid embittering your child? Or, which one did you experience in your own upbringing that embittered you?

4. What is the right balance between being firm with your children and being tender with them? If you are a grandparent, think through your role when you need to discipline your grandchild.

Applying the Bible

5. Are you holding on too tightly to your child? What can you do this week to release some control and give your child over to the Lord? How can you pray for them more and hover over them less? Allow God to do the hovering.

6. Are you holding onto a few rules that don’t have much biblical reasoning behind them? If so, will you stop enforcing them so it doesn’t confuse those you are trying to train unto godliness? Are the  rules you have developing character in your children?